What Gerard said. Er, the first thing, not the thing about Garbage

Maybe it's just the same thing. 'Queer' comes off like what Gerard said here, but different in the UK? Same as 'fag' comes off differently here than the UK.. idk
I feel like you should use what you want to describe yourself, don't judge anyone else in the lgbtq community for using whatever /they/ want to use to describe themself, and refer to others as whatever they prefer to be referred as.